DOES MY EX WANT TO GET BACK WITH ME?

BREAKING UP IS HARD TO DO



Get back with me, love?

 Breaking up with your spouse or significant other can be a difficult task. It is a time of confusion, loss, anger and a myriad of emotions. But even through these challenging times, you may wonder if your ex wants to get back with you. There were so many wonderful memories you shared with each other during your time together and you naturally miss your partner. A certain song or a particular place can bring back a flood of blissful moments. The longer and more intimate the relationship, the more difficult it is to forget your partner and just move on. Since you may be remembering all the good times you spent with your companion, you wonder if your ex is remembering them as well. Is your ex longing to get back with you?

DON'T JUMP THE GUN

Your ex may want to get back together with you and you may have even contemplated the idea, but don't be so quick to "jump the gun." You should first question whether or not you truly want to re-ignite the love you shared. Remember, you broke up for a reason and those reasons may still exist. Has anything changed between the two of you? Have either of you matured, grown or increased your willingness to compromise on the problems in the relationship?

ANALYZE THE NEW INTEREST



Does my ex really want to get back with me?

 Another question to consider when an ex shows interest again in renewing the relationship is whether or not they are just playing games. Some people just want what they don't have or they may be trying to make you jealous. Perhaps your ex is just trying to get attention with no intention of trying to get back with you.

Another common mistake is that your ex may want to get back together because they currently have no other prospects. They may not be doing it maliciously or intentionally but are just lonely or bored so they think about the times you shared more often and with an "everything was perfect" fantasy. Your ex partner may not even realize that this is their motivation.

And last, your ex may just be trying to get revenge for some perceived injustice. If this is the case, my guess is that as soon as they know they have you back in their life, they will kick you to the curb and say goodbye. It was all just to teach you a lesson.

HOW TO TELL IF EX WANTS TO GET BACK WITH ME: 6 SIGNS

1. Are they calling, texting, or contacting you more frequently?
2. Do they stop by unexpectedly to your home or work?
3. Do you see them more often at the places you frequented as a couple? The places you stopped seeing them at right after the break up?
4. Do they contact you "out of the blue",  for help of any kind?
5. Are they more interested in spending time with you recently?
6. Do you notice when they are with you they are more friendly and flirtatious?

These are all signs that your ex may be attempting to get back with you. However, it may be better to wait before you act so you can get a better feel for the situation and the possible motives. If your ex wants to get back with you the best scenario may be to have a "wait and see" attitude. Playing a little hard to get might prevent you from getting hurt. If you wait before diving back into the relationship you can see if your ex is really serious about wanting to get back together with you and you will no longer have to wonder, "does my ex want to get back with me?" You will absolutely know!

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CAN I WIN BACK MY EX WITH MANIPULATION?

There are times when we can't think of anything that will work to get back with someone we love. So what do we do? Sometimes we resort to that dirty little word called manipulation to win back an ex. Manipulation is that backroom secret that nobody wants to talk about. We've all probably done it when we feel there is no other recourse.

 In Buddhist philosophy there is a principle called "right action." A similar thought exists in Christianity which says you should "do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Both of these philosophies have the same message. Manipulation of another person is probably not the best idea. It is certainly not the road you want to travel in trying to win back the love of your ex.

WHAT'S WRONG WITH MANIPULATION?

What is so wrong with manipulation if it works? Manipulating another might help you to achieve your short term goals, but it does not help to build a long term relationship. Manipulating and mind games is dishonest and can easily corrode the existing relationship. On a subconscious level, the manipulated person knows they are being controlled by another and the feeling of distrust may grow.

A successful relationship is built on trust, integrity, and communication. These are the stepping stones to a healthy and happy connection between two people. You cannot win back an ex with manipulation and maintain mutual respect for yourself or your partner. Honor the bond between you with fair play instead of exploitation. Give your love the opportunity to grow and flourish!

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this subject. Please feel free to leave you words of wisdom in the comments section below.